This list is broken into 3 sections: regional groups that meet up and have parties, regional discussion lists that have only on-line presence, and BDSM directories that have more complete BDSM listings for other types of groups and listings outside of New York and southern Ontario.
Regional Kink Groups
- Albany Power Exchange
- Albany, NY area kink group.
- APEX Yahoo Group
- Friends of Albany Power Exchange - unofficial presence on FetLife
- Binghamton Society of Kink
- A place to network and meet those who of us who live in the Binghamton, NY and surrounding areas.
- Binghamton Society of Kink on FetLife
- Corning Area Kink Group
- Corning, NY area kink group
- Corning Area Kink Group on FetLife
- DomSubFriends
- DomSubFriends is a New York City area members only pan-sexual group, who share interests in the S&M, BDSM, D/s, and B/D scene.
- DomSubFriends Yahoo! group
- Erie Power Exchange
- Erie, PA area kink group.
- Hudson Valley DS Group
- Kink group located in eastern New York state.
- Hudson Valley D/s Yahoo Group
- Hudson Valley D/s on FetLife
- Ithaca & Surrounding Area
- A group covering the small towns of the New York southern tier and finger lakes regions, as well as corresponding sections of northern Pennsylvania.
- FetLife presence
- Lake Erie Dungeon Society
- Erie, PA area kink group.
- Lake Erie Dungeon Society on FetLife
- Lake Erie Dungeon Society Yahoo Group
- Long Island Leather 'N' Roses
- Long Island, NY area kink group.
- LI_Leather_N_Roses Yahoo Group
- Long Island Leather and Roses on FetLife
- Niagara Fetish Friends
- Niagara Fetish Friends is a community of people celebrating and promoting Kink within their lives. Founded within the BDSM lifestyle, NFF encourages the exploration of consensual kink of various kinds and is open to anyone who is open-minded.
- Niagara Fetish Friends Yahoo Group
- Niagara Fetish Friends on FetLife
- PEP Buffalo BDSM
- People Exchanging Power of Buffalo, NY is a BDSM and DS social and discussion group for adults of all genders, sexualities, marital statuses, kinks, and fetishes. The goals of PEP Buffalo are to provide support, acceptance, dignity and a sense of community with events like meet and greets, play parties, and demonstrations. PEP promotes safe, sane and consensual BDSM activities through education.
- PEP Buffalo BDSM Yahoo Group
- PEP Buffalo on FetLife
- Phoenix Niagara
- Phoenix Niagara is a BDSM support and social group that was formed with the goal of serving the Western NY and Southern Ontario region. Phoenix Niagara is pansexual, pankink and open to those 18 years and older.
- Phoenix_Niagara Yahoo group
- RochesterNYGrrlz
- RochesterNYGrrlz is a social group for cross dressers. In addition to the mailing list, attendees meet informally at a local bar many Saturdays to socialize.
- Rochester Rams
- Officially known at The Battering Rams, M.C., the Rochester Rams are a Gay men's motorcycle club that is involved in BDSM as well.
- Syracuse D/s Society
- Syracuse, NY BDSM group. Although they only have a discussion group (no web page yet), they do hold munches and parties.
- Syracuse D/s Society on FetLife
- Upstate Kink Society
- Formerly the Utica Kink Society, this group has changed their name to more accurately represent their members' geography which includes many Syracuse members.
- Upstate Kink Society on FetLife
- Upstate Kink Society Yahoo Group
- Western New York AB/DL Events
- Party and munch announcements for adult babies and diaper lovers in western NY.
Regional Mailing Lists
- Albany Adult Underground
- Albany, NY BDSM Discussion Group
- Albany High Protocol
- A FetLife group for those practicing high protocol in the Albany, NY area.
- AlbanyKinkTNG Yahoo discussion group
- Albany, NY BDSM Discussion Group
- DSSG Toronto
- Toronto, Canada kink group
- NewYorkBBWSpankingSociety
- New York Area BDSM Discussion Group. Low traffic, but seems on-topic (June 2010).
- Northeast Dungeon Society
- Northeast BDSM Discussion Group
- NY Female SubSisters Forum
- New York Area BDSM Discussion Group
- Plattsburgh/Adirondacks
- A FetLife group for people in northern New York to get to know each other and announce events.
- Rochforcedfem
- Rochester, NY BDSM Discussion Group
- S. I. K.
- Staten Island Kink discussion & announcement list. This group also gets together for munches.
- Toronto Ageplay Group
- The Toronto AB/DL/Ageplay group holds munches monthly.
- Toronto Ageplay Group discussion list
- WNY Lifestyle Society
- Western NY Area BDSM Discussion Group.
BDSM Directories
- The BDSM Events Page
- Major BDSM events in the United States, Canada and London, UK.
- The Crucible
- North American BDSM organizations arranged in a haphazard list.
- Caryl's BDSM Page
- Worldwide BDSM organizations by state and country.
- Comprehensive Internet BDSM Directory
- Worldwide BDSM organizations arranged by state and country, and a New York City area events calendar.
- New York City area events calendar
- Keeper's BDSM Info Pages— Local Communities (BDSM)
- National and by-state BDSM organizations.
Miscellaneous BDSM Resources
- National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
- NCSF is
committed to creating a political, legal and social environment in the US that advances equal rights for consenting adults who engage in alternative sexual and relationship expressions
, including BDSM, Leather, Fetish, Swing, and Polyamory Communities. - Kink Aware Professional directory
- London Fetish Scene's Wipipedia
- An on-line encyclopedia of BDSM, fetish, and related information.